Mother's Day Whispers
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It’s a list of familiar lies. You’re a terrible mother. You’ve made too many mistakes. Your kids will never “rise up and call you blessed.” You must have missed something in your child rearing OR you might miss something in your child rearing. It’s your fault if your kids don’t turn out exactly as you hope they will for God’s glory. I have told myself these lies over the years, and even now as a mother of grown sons, yesterday I heard the whisper in my ears yet again.

Mother’s Day is coming and I let my mind wander for just a moment. My sons are independent, making their own way in this world. They have been raised to know God, love country and family, and to work hard. I took them on picnics, sang songs, colored, crafted, helped with homework, drove to events, encouraged them to pursue their talents and dreams, and talked, talked, talked about everything I thought was important for their development as young men. Now they are making their own choices as they navigate this broken world of ours and I am tempted to feel completely responsible for every decision they make.

Here’s the thing — I am not the Holy Spirit. I am a broken vessel depending on the Potter to mold me, and in turn depending on Him to mold my children. Along the way I have prayed for His guidance and followed His leading—yes, with error—but God knows my weak humanity and gives grace. I certainly am responsible to teach and care for my children, but it is the Holy Spirit in the end who leads, guides, and convicts. At some point our children are mature enough to be responsible for their own decisions and whether or not, or even how, to follow God’s direction in their lives. As parents, we want to encourage and help our kids throughout their lives, but at some point we need to realize that, although we are given the honor of being stewards of our children for Him, they are ultimately His. We have to trust His working in their lives and be available to them along the way, praying and encouraging by example, even in our brokenness.

Let me say something about comparison here. Many of you are looking at how other mothers are rearing their children, or even at the children themselves. Those lies tend to creep in more when we compare. God tells us not to compare; nothing good comes from it. One of the many things time has taught me is that I don’t know everything about others, and I cannot walk in their shoes—in other words, don’t judge. Love your sister. Pray for her and her children. Encourage and be thankful. This is the best advice I can give you. In the meantime, when you hear the lies whispering in your ear, speak the Truth to yourself. God loves you and your children; He has given you everything you need to raise them. He knows your weakness and faults. He knows how to shepherd your children more effectively than you do; you can trust Him. Spend your time being thankful for His grace and pray for opportunities to model a real walk with Christ.

Although I have memories from childhood of my mother’s influence, I have many more of her being a mother to me as an adult—as a woman who loves God, my dad, our family, and others. Mistakes were made along the way, which we have had to discuss, learn from. Now I find myself doing the same with my sons. I can’t help but be humbled and thankful for God’s grace in how my parents raised me and how He has worked in my life since.

There is still time for you to teach and influence your children, but let the Lord create and develop those times. I’d like to recommend a JourneyForth book I came across recently called The Battle Within by J. Robin Wood. I’ve started giving away a copy whenever I speak at a national workshop. The author talks about her temptation with “Supermom” and the lessons God has taught her about His sovereignty. It’s well worth your time to check it out, and a HomeWorks Consultant can place an order with free shipping if you’re interested.

Dear Sister, have a happy, blessed, encouraged, and Spirit-filled Mother’s Day. God is at work! But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Cor. 12:9

On behalf of the HomeWorks team,
Sharon Fisher

Manager | Curriculum Specialist, Speaker Coordinator, Social Media
HomeWorks by Precept


 

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